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I think that the woman new that she wants her husband back. But as God hasn’t answered her prayer, she just is afraid she is praying for something, that is against God’s will. But as you already said, as long as she isn’t praying to kill off the other woman for the reconciliation to happen. She can pray for what she wants… The problem is that there is her husbands free will involved and something needs to happen for him to realize and admit to himself that he has made a mistake.
Deut. 24:1-4 outlines an instance where God’s will was for the marriage to NOT be restored. In fact, it says, “That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD.” Now, I’m not saying that that’s binding on Christians today, of course. I’m just wanting to point out that there have been circumstances when God said for a marriage to NOT be restored. To extrapolate from that, I’d say the answer to the question, “Is it always God’s will for marriage to be restored?” would be, “not necessarily.”
Deut. 24:1-4 (NIV): “If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.”
So…………..let me see if I got this right. The husband and wife have a big spat and says he wants a divorce and is not willing to seek marriage counseling. THEN, exactly one week later the wife finds out the husband has already started a relationship with another woman and told the floozy he loves her. And this wife still wants to restore her marriage?!
It’s up to her at this point what she wants to do. If she still feels this strongly to save the marriage then yes she needs to pray for her marriage. But don’t lie down and be a doormat! Nobody just up and want a divorce after one fight and then jumps into another relationship almost immediately afterwards. There may be more to this then what was written on the email. But it looks the husband had this in the works for awhile and was just waiting to find a good excuse to pull the plug.
Put the screws to this guy! This dude is probably living pretty comfortably while this gal is praying for “God’s will” in this fiasco. This husband must face some consequences for what he’s done to wake him up.
Do whatever it takes to make it difficult him to file a divorce. Jump the gun and you, the wife, file a legal separation. Kick him out! She needs to get ahead of this thing and tell her family, his family, the church, the pastor, and even the whole town if need be. But this needs to be put back on the husband that HE caused this mess and he is doing something in complete violation of his vows. Hopefully, by shedding light on what happened and making him miserable it will return reason and both parties can walk towards reconciliation. ‘Nuff said!