When Jesus sat down for his amazing Sermon on the Mount, he began by sharing nine simple truths: Blessed are the poor in spirit, blessed are those that mourn, blessed are the meek, etc… We call them the “beatitudes”. In his new book, Mark Gungor shares his “NINE BE-ATTITUDES” for a successful marriage. Nine ways for you to “be” in order for you to experience the kind of marriage God intends for you to have. Click here to order.
We were at your seminar in September in Bakersfield, CA. I noticed that many of your seminar interests/attendees are middle aged.
Your illustration of a woman who has been touched all day and doesn’t want her man pawing at her as soon as he comes home cracks me up! However, may I kindly refer to the statistics showing that baby-boomer Americans are aging and there is now a large sector who are not dealing with little kids at home all day. When the husband arrives home after work (like mine) and wants to be all sexy and frisky–I’ve not had children to deal with or drain me–I’ve had my invalid mother! I love her. She sucks the life out of me sometime, however. He wondered why “hardly anything gets done and things are half done all over the house.” That is, until he stayed home with her two different days not long ago while I was (1st time) upstairs sleeping from sheer exhaustion & (2nd time) gone for the day. I came downstairs/home to a man who looked frazzled, and I found a myriad of things around the house half done. My man confessed he couldn’t *wait* to get back to the office! And he didn’t even have to change her diapers, clean up a POO or barf mess, change the sheets, giver her meds, wash her hair, or trim her nails (which is WWIII, btw) the at all!
It was only a few hours, yet, she managed to suck the life from him and take him off task the entire time I was out of the picture.
That memory lasted a month.
The day we were to leave for your live event in Bakersfield (Fri) was “one of those days” at home for me. Plus, it was the day of our 1st Anniversary. My card for him was sitting propped up in the center of the kitchen table. I spent 20 minutes that day opening EVERY CARD in the store to find *just the right card* to give him.
Saturday we were to have our small group over for lunch & BIble study, arriving 90 mins before we got back from Bakersfield, entering via extra house key. I didn’t get the floor washed as I had promised–and as he was expecting. He came in (without card or flowers) and looked around at the floor. His very first words (with a scowl and exasperation) to me that day were, “The floor hasn’t been washed!” This was followed by 30 minutes of silence as we both thrashed about finishing up “my” housework before leaving for the 80 minute drive to Bakersfield.
SO–that analogy you use about the rug-rats hanging from your man’s testicles? You need one for him to understand what we, as middle aged women go through at home all day as caregivers of elderly parents. Because I know I am not alone. I have talked to plenty of other women out there that can commiserate with me.
An In-home “nurse” to an 85 yr old “child”
Give him the prices of nursing homes (I know u want to keep your mom home-quoting prices would just be to wake him up). Maybe his memory needs to be refreshed. He doesn’t sound like good husband material from what I can tell. Maybe a kick to the curb
Rhonda, I was really surprised by the “kick him to the curb” statement. Nobody in any marriage needs that advice.
Lynelle – this time I’m your life is just for a season. But, there is NO shame in getting help with your mom. I work in long term care and when families finally get to that point of not being able to give the time, attention, and care that there loved one needs they are usually completely and totally exsaperated and not much more than a shell. When we stop being family, kids, and spouses it might be time to explore options for even a little help. They have in home care even part time may help you rejuvenate. Blessings may God give you His endurance, wisdom, and strength.
sunbruk-do u have any better advice? I don’t appreciate ur tone- nobody needs a spouse who isn’t there. I think Mark may say the same
Having ox poo is not a reason to get rid of the ox…That is what Mark would say (and has said).
You were on the James & Betty Ministry show this morning. I loved it. You are so funny as you share with us the Be Attitudes from Jesus regarding Marriage. Thank you so much. Congrats on
the new book. God Bless you & your family.
I’ve not seen the book, nor have I seen Mark talking about it. I have however gotten to watch the DVD of the marriage seminar and while it is refreshing to hear a seminar speaker who has NO problem talking about sex, sometimes I wonder if the audience thinks Mark’s got it all together.
I myself have been on an incredibly disastrous journey where, since the age of 14, I had been living a life trying to measure up to the the standards of those around me. The majority of them had higher than my own. A few had lower than my own. It was a combination of professional counseling and finding Mark’s Flag Page that I experienced a complete turnaround.
Despite the fact that the turnaround is real and lasting with me, I still encounter the ones who are used to me before the Flag Page. They cannot see how I made the jump and the majority believe that since it was such a quick jump, that it is a fad and won’t last. Almost like relationships, unless done in what one mentor explained: a “God Ordered Direction”.
Hello am arabic lady from dubai am married for 5 years yesterday i saw your sessions and it helps me to understand the last five years i want to ask you my hasband work on other city and he come home for 3 days thats from thersday and he leave on sunday morning is that normal or its ganna lead to problems actully i have my work and am happy but my kids miss him wats your advice in first year he planned to take us with him then his mother forced him to cancel she cut on him for 2 months i tryed to force him and left him for only one month then he promis me he will move to work her but he didnt he planning to take good potion in his company