At Least Get Paid for It!

There is a misconception, a mistaken way of thinking among Christians when it comes to having sex outside of marriage.  Here is what many people think:

  • The best circumstance to have sex in is within the bounds of matrimony or if you are not married, to remain sexually pure.
  • The next best scenario is having sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend…but while you really shouldn’t do it, most people will give a pass to those who do. Because after all, you love each other, it’s just so difficult to wait; you can’t really control yourselves when you feel so strongly about one another.
  • Then the lowest and most unacceptable sex (in most people’s minds) is prostitution—those who get paid to engage in sexual acts.

But that’s not actually how the list goes…at least according to the scripture in Ezekiel 16.  Here God is chastising the nation of Israel for their unfaithfulness. And He uses the analogy of prostitutes when He says:

30 “‘How weak-willed you are, declares the Sovereign LORD, when you do all these things, acting like a brazen prostitute! 31 When you built your mounds at the head of every street and made your lofty shrines in every public square, you were unlike a prostitute, because you scorned payment.

32 “‘You adulterous wife! You prefer strangers to your own husband! 33 Every prostitute receives a fee, but you give gifts to all your lovers, bribing them to come to you from everywhere for your illicit favors. 34 So in your prostitution you are the opposite of others; no one runs after you for your favors. You are the very opposite, for you give payment and none is given to you. (NIV)

God is saying those who freely give sex with no payment are worse than prostitutes! See, the way most people think about that “ranking” of sex is incorrect. Those women out there having sex outside of marriage, with no commitment from the guy, those who are getting absolutely nothing for it are at the bottom of God’s list.

And I truly do not understand it. Women go against their own self-interest when they become sexually promiscuous and have sex outside of marriage. The old adage, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” really applies. You think that by having sex with the guy he’s going to commit? You think that’s how you get a guy? You think it’s how you attract a quality man? Think again!

Really?!  God says you are “worse than a prostitute”. I doubt any woman out there giving it up to these guys for free has never considered herself to be worse than a hooker, but according to God she is. At least these women should ask for money.

(At this point, I am warning readers to proceed with extreme caution! The remainder of this article is heavy laden with sarcasm and tongue-in-cheek humor. If you are amongst the “humor-challenged”, you may want to stop now and steer clear!)

So what’s the going rate for a prostitute? What do they get for having sex? A search on Google shows that a decent hooker starts at $150 per hour. So ladies, when you go on a date and you are going to put out for these guys, you should at least ask for the 150 bucks first! That’s what an honorable hooker does; don’t be a skank and do it for free.  And please note that I am not talking heathens and pagans. I’m talking about young Christian, single women who are screwing their boyfriends on the first or second date, or maybe they will wait till the third.  It doesn’t matter if you wait for the 500th date!  You shouldn’t be having sex until you are married, but lots of you are giving it up a few days or weeks after knowing the guy!

Seriously, girls, don’t be less than a prostitute and do it for nothing. You can at least turn a profit on the deal and we can start a new ministry in church. Obviously we can’t get these women to keep their pants on, so they can raise money doing it!  Then they can tithe –-not just 10% but let’s make it 50% and give it to the church.  Someone will ask, “How did you raise the money for your missions trip?” You can tell them that it came from the “’Ho’s for Jesus Fund”. We’re raising money for the kingdom. If you’re ugly, get at least $100–if you are a super babe, go for a grand. We may as well redeem this behavior; at least they won’t be giving it out for nothing! If you give yourself to these guys for free, you are less than a prostitute God says, so I say at a minimum have the moral sense to ask for cash!

Why do you women do this? What do you gain? You hope that he’ll like you? That he’ll stay with you?  That you’ll land the guy this way? The truth is, just like the verse in Ezekiel says, you end up paying them when you screw these guys and take care of them, wash their clothes, keep their house and take care of their kids.

Now, I am NOT advocating prostitution. I’m sure I’ll get emails from people having a cow and saying that I’m “pro-prostitution”. I am not…. but I am more pro-prostitution than I am okay with giving it out for free.  What I am facetiously trying to say is stop having sex with people you aren’t married to! Quit dating, raising your legs and screwing some guy on Saturday night, then showing up at church on Sunday morning raising your hands to Jesus.

I’ve actually had conversations with Christian women who tell me,  “Well, you know it doesn’t really matter; I’m not a virgin. He was so great and we really connected…I know we probably shouldn’t have sex or fooling around, but my friends think it’s okay!” And sadly, the older the women are, the worse they are with this kind of thinking. A recent survey said that only 17% of twenty-something women are likely to have sex on the first date, but that number jumped to 58% for women in their forties! The first date!!! Good grief, that’s quite the “get-to-know-you” maneuver.

Ladies, purity and morality are not about the status of your vagina! It’s not a matter of anatomy; it’s about your heart. At some point you must stop this nonsense and choose to do what God says and live a moral life…even if you’ve slept with 700 men and aren’t a virgin anymore! And that means NO getting physical! I’m not talking about the “everything but penetration” rule. No sex means no making out, no groping, no feeling each other up, no oral sex, etc.

People, is it too unreasonable to expect unmarried Christian women to not freely screw men?  (Guys shouldn’t be doing this either, but that’s another article for another day!) I don’t think so, yet seemingly for many, it is too much to ask. So if you are going to give it up, you may as well make a buck, then at least you aren’t lower than a prostitute. Now, don’t get mad at me–that’s not what I’m saying, it’s what God says–look it up in Ezekiel. And by the way, your 50% tithe on the cash you garner will go a long way in getting my Cadillac “pimp mobile”! (Relax…it’s a joke!)

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16 Responses to “At Least Get Paid for It!”

  1. John Wheeler says:

    You know, that makes a weird kind of sense. You may just have put yourself up there with Benjamin Franklin’s advice to a young man (if you must take lovers, take older women rather than younger ones).

    The trouble with that logic is that it costs us poor men a lot more – which may explain why we prefer “the next best scenario”. But there’s no escaping it: in God’s eyes, and in the minds of some young women, simple fornication is worse for the woman than harlotry. I recall reading about one woman who’d become a young harlot and her reasoning: sex was free and easy where she came from, and she figured she might as well get paid for it.

  2. Janet says:

    I have felt this way for a long time, but apparently never noticed the scripture for it before. I’m so thankful that God redeemed me from that life over 16 years ago! Once I decided to live a pure life, God gave me my 1st love as a reward. We have been married now for 16 1/2 years! I am a testament to God’s grace and mercy and know intimately the pit caused by this kind of lifestyle…and never having anything to show for it. Emptiness, depression, lonliness, feeling dirty…the list is endless, and none of it good. Thank you so much for your frank and loving outreach to these women!

  3. Egbert O'Foo says:

    Well, I just did the calculations.

    FWIW, I’m married and not involved, nor ever have been, outside of this marriage.

    Based on my salary and the average frequency and length of our lovemaking, I’d say she’s making about $2400.00/hour.

    But she *is* a babe!

  4. Maria Martina says:

    I just LOVE this article. Every word of it. I’m just wondering, where were you about 25 years ago? When I was young and plain ignorant? The time I most needed this knowledge?
    I thank and praise GOD though for finding out about you just in time to be able to share this knowledge with my children!
    Thanks a million and keep up the good work!
    A M E N

    • Sharmayn says:

      I just posted this article to my FB page and asked almost the exact question… Where was this info when I was 18, stupid and putting it out for free????
      Thank God for His cleansing power… (and for Mark Gungor’s raw and effective illuminations!)

  5. Beth says:

    PURITY…God loves it, satan hates it. No wonder the battle rages on to steal, kill and destroy it. Open they eyes of our hearts, Father God, to show us what we’re loosing when we give our self away. Sex inside of marriage is awesome if it’s kept there. IF you’ve already given in or given out, there is a Redeemer, Jesus, God’s own Son. Only He can take the mess you’ve made, and cleanse you and make you whole again. I am living proof!

  6. Rev. Michael Forestieri says:

    For anyone who thinks Mark’s comments were too “brutal”, just look at the brutality going on around you in the pews of your church. How many unwed pregnancies have you seen in the pews this year? How many abortions? How many families, who previously looked down their noses at others, suddenly packed up and left because they couldn’t deal with the shame when their own teenaged or unmarried daughter showed up with child? The madness has to stop. Thanks, Mark! Keep up the good work!

  7. Pauline says:

    Are you going to have a nice piece (pun intended) on guys who oblidge women who give it away? How they should handle that offer if the woman is pushing it and how to keep their testosterone in check if they didn’t?

    Love your mission.

    Pauline in
    Solomons, MD

  8. Jenn Tenhoff says:

    I agree totally Mark. I was one of those girls who gave things away for free and did pay the guy for it. I took care of him, gave to him and walked away empty handed and hurt when it was over. Of course those are mostly my before Jesus days, still nonetheless the hurt and pain is real.

    My advice to women, young and old, WAIT, WAIT WAIT. More importantly plug into God and allow Him to be your true husband. Let Him show you the qualities a good man should have and let HIM lead you to him. Wait on God.

    In Christ,
    Jenn Tenhoff

  9. Yvonne Boulle says:

    This is so true, but is it wrong to use a vibrator or suchlike to satisfy oneself? after all we ar all human?

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