In the weeks to come, I am going to work hard at helping you understand what’s going on in the enterprise of marriage: what men think, what women think, what men expect, what women expect, how men are wired, how women are wired, et cetera. In a way, marriage is a cosmic joke; we are so different from each other. But if marriage is about revealing weakness and sin, and is about being challenged to get beyond ourselves to truly love another person, as I contend, then understanding will bring the fruit of new found energy and strength for the task of getting along.
Dare to believe marriage is good, that the one you are in is good. Dare to ask God to help you treasure it, appreciate it, and stay committed to it, even though there are times you feel a little shaken-up and exposed with your needs going unmet. Until we have the right perspective about marriage, our efforts to make it better are futile. When we see things correctly, our efforts are met with real, lasting, authentic change that fosters a healthier, stronger marriage.