NEW EPISODE: Do the majority of women use sex as a reward? How do I get older women to stop hitting on me? Why are so many married men caught up in pornography? What is the right balance of our public display of affection? Can Christians listen to other genres of music even if the songs have bad words? Should I marry a man who is HIV positive? Does God test his people? If my parents never talked about sex with me, how do I see it as a healthy thing in marriage?
They’re not talking about reward structure, they’re talking about sexual blackmail. You have said this multiple times in your other comments, yourself. You have backed it up with 1 Cor 7:4,5. “Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer”, not as a tool to get him to clean out the garage. You have used this example, but now you change the term and call it “reward structure.”
So, which is it?