NEW EPISODE: Is it really impossible for men to resist sexual temptation? Can you still have oral sex if you pledge to be abstinent? Are traditional marriage vows necessary or can couples write their own? What should we do about our fornicating youth leader?
just before 37 minutes mark begins saying he feels ‘bad’ for people who fall in love with those they are not married to because they cant make it right to ‘fulfill’ their desire. what does he mean when he implies he ‘feels for them’?
mark said something like he feels for people who fall in love with someone outside of marriage because they cant do anything to make it ok???? why does he feel for them? ok maybe i heard wrong?
So as I was listening to the first weekly show … I wanted to respond to Mark’s whole “I don’t understand” comment. Having been recently divorced and now “technically can” remarry if I wanted to. Which I also have to say I am split right down the middle, because part of me knows since I have two little boys, that getting remarried while MIGHT make me happy, there are tons of unknown factors.
Here’s the thing I am living with and might contribute. It’s EASY to want to FEEL GOOD thru sex and not commit, because then it doesn’t involve a level of being a PERMENANT part of their life good/bad. If it doesn’t work you can say peace out see ya later, and there’s no messy divorce, or money involved. Lust definitely isn’t the same thing as a marital commitment, and there probably both happy with the status quo.
Plus you have to make an intentional choice everyday despite what your FEELINGS want you to do, I think this is the hardest part of de-coupling. How easy it would be to lose myself in this other person, feeling wanted and needed, cause I know for women that’s ALOT of the reason we don’t want to DO the tough thing, because of the “what if” question.
This is all just my humble opinion, thanks for letting me comment!