07-02-2009
This morning Mark broadcast live in front of a studio audience of pastors in Wisconsin.
To open the show Mark and Debbie talk about South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford’s justification of his affair and how he found his ‘soul mate.’
Mark and Debbie get to an e-mail from a new mom whose sex drive has returned but she can’t regain her husbands attention and catches him masturbating after denying her sex. The sex talk continues with an e-mail from a wife who is faced with her husbands alarming new requests in the bedroom. After the sex topic, Mark and Debbie get to an e-mail dealing with a couple’s financial trouble, who’s to blame and how to stop the spending.
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Tags: adultery, blame, masturbation, money, pornography
I’m thrilled to hear you were speaking to an audience of pastors today. You often advise women to “go and speak to [their] pastors”. Problem: I know of only one pastor who gets these concepts, you. I’ve been married for 25 years, have spoken to pastors/deacons from more than one church. and more than one marriage conference. I haven’t heard much beyond “shut up and put out”. Also, the ever popular, “You just worry about your own responsibilities (translation: keep putting out) and let God deal with your husband.”
One more thing: The “mature Christian women with great marriages”. Those are hard to find also. Women also perpetuate the “shut up and put out” messages. And marriages that look great on Sunday morning may not be that great. The couple in my church that leads the young married couple study has not had sex themselves in the past 5 years (top secret info.). What should the church do to find mentors and leaders? Screen people? Ask them, “How’s your sex life?”, “Any violence in your house?”, “Know anything about ‘tree climbing’?”…………